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Why Do Black People Flock to Each Other?

By Sowhatiff Jenkins

This is a question that I have been asked in more than one way by the majority population.  For undergrad, I attended a majority white university.  Big surprise.  For grad school, the same thing.  For those of you in the workforce, I’m sure you too have to deal with the same thing: being one of very few black people, or minorities in general, in any given situation, be it sitting in the classroom, or heading to the break room to warm up lunch.

Thoughts about this come up without outside prompting.  I know I have stopped myself a few times as I feel myself congregating with or gravitating to people simply because they are black.  Sometimes I find myself wanting to fight this urge, mostly in an effort to expand my social circle and learn to be comfortable with others.  Forgive me, as I grew up in an all black and Latino town, and went to an all black and Latino high school.  Anyway, I am always intrigued when asked by a classmate or colleague of mine, what it is that makes black folks “stick together” so to speak.

Sometimes this question it carries with it a connotation of “Damn, black people stay segregating themselves.”  This has got to be my favorite.  When I walk into my classroom of 100 students, and about 10 of the students are black, and scattered randomly throughout the room, I don’t ask myself “Damn why are all the white people sitting together?”  When you make up the majority, it is likely that you’ll end up sitting next to someone that looks like you.

So why is there beef when I want to save 6 seats for my friends?  Its probably because we stick out like sore thumbs:  All the chocolate and caramel folks lined up in a row.  People assume that we do this because we are trying to keep them out, but why can’t we just be trying to get in where we fit in?  What’s wrong with me trying to be comfortable?

I think the issue comes up because people in any given majority don’t have to think about being a part of that majority.  When people all around you are ::insert any group distinction here:: just like you, you don’t have to think about fitting in, because you just do.

People are too sensitive sometimes.  My wanting to sit with my black friends has less to do with me not wanting to sitting next you, and more to do with me wanting to sit with my friends.  I mean, can I live?


The Ultimate Odd Couple

It’s summertime, which means most of you may be adding another type of party to your repertoire besides First Fridays and those After Work mixers, the infamous Boat Ride. It’s an old past time for most Black people. If you don’t know about it ask a friend, they’ll put you on. And then you won’t be able to escape. We here at Three Ways have gotten numerous invites to hit the high seas with fraternities, sororities, entrepreneurial organizations, the Key Club, etc. And I’ve seen countless more invites floating around on Facebook. I’m all about us exploring new venues, but since when did Black people and boats become a good idea?

It may be on the approved list of things that we like, but it’s a bit ironic isn’t it? Honestly, we don’t have the best track record with boats. At the very least, not the best first impression. Think about it… Ok. I guess like the infamous N word, we’ve turned a bad thing into a good thing. Right. Even with that and the fact that America will be apologizing for slavery any day now (any day now…), I’m still apprehensive.

Why? I still don’t see many Black Olympic swimmers, I did see one at the opening, and the ones I do see aren’t that impressive (check out the video below).  Nor have I seen any Black kids in the deep end of the pool. So unless I missed the memo, I’m pretty sure that Black people still don’t do water. Deep water that is. We do the beach. I know we’re all about expanding, but let’s not over step our boundaries here. Deep for us is neck level. I’m grown and I still want to feel something underneath my feet. And for the record I can swim. Just not very well. And that’s exactly what everyone says…

Water just isn’t our thing, so maybe we should lay off the boats. Hit the community pool and let’s get an apology from boat makers nationwide. Just some words of wisdom for the next time you get an invite for a Boat Ride. If you aren’t down with the movement, rock some booties and a life vest and live it up like Jigga on the Big Pimpin video. Just make sure you don’t fall off the side. Cause that’ll be in my next blog.

Hope you enjoy the summer & the sarcasm,


This somewhat funny post is dedicated to one of the funniest gentlemen to ever grace the stage – Bernie Mac.