After having conversations with a few men, and reading some of your good comments, I was able to gather some information. While some of this stuff will seem as though it should have been obvious, or you feel like “I knew that already,” its sometime nice to hear (read) things twice.
Apparently, spring and fall are the best time to find dudes.
I thought this was a little out there when I heard it, but it’s interesting nonetheless. Spring is after winter right? And just like the new flowers ready to bloom, guys are ready to get back into action, and are ready to mingle. As for the fall, after a long summer, they are ready to settle down. They have boinked hooked up with all those fast chics nice women from the summer, and are ready to find someone to keep warm during those brisk walks in the park, or to to snuggle with under the sheets around the fireplace.
Fish in the right pond.
I think this is one area where men may have one up on women. Dudes know what type of women will be at certain types of spots. When they want a jump off, they go to the clubs. If they want a stank sophisticated lady, they may frequent wine tastings or art exhibits and such. Depending on what you are looking for should play a role in where you are looking. Think of the type of guy you are (or think you are) interested in, and what he might like. Don’t go looking for Mr. Right at the dingy hole-in-the-wall spot. Chances are, Mr. Here Tonight Gone Tomorrow will be there instead.
Pay attention to the age factor.
If you get a flyer for a gathering that looks all nice and sounds good, but says in very fine print “18 to enter, 21 to drink,” or its at a venue known the attract young people, you may have a bit of a problem. There are some types of events that young dudes won’t frequent. Lounges, or after work spots, are not likely to have that 20 year old boy “man” trying to spit game. Try to avoid spots that have a large age range. Chances are, women will get the short (and young) end of the stick.
Keep your eyes open.
You probably interact with decent men on a regular basis. You have probably exchanged glances before, but are too busy being stank to notice. Maybe he doesn’t want to get at you like that. But a nice conversation with that handsome guy you see everyday won’t kill you.
Apparently sports bars are what’s up.
I must say, I do enjoy a good beer and football game when my schedule allows. I have received some cool points from the fellas for this. So ladies, just try it. We want him to watch “chic flicks” or Grey’s with us, so sit through a Giants game every once in a while. Yes. I said Giants.
Stop rolling 31 deep.
This has been something that has begun to annoy me as of late. I love my girls, but I am not longer super interested in rolling mad deep (pause) to places, unless its one of those famed “girls night out.” But really, girls night out doesn’t have to be an occasion every time we go out. Scale back.
Anything else we are missing?
Keeping it Three Ways up in this piece,
Sowhatiff? “I Drink Beer and Eat Wings Whilst I Watch Football” Jenkins